what the heck is it about rainy days that i both love and hate so much?
let me sort this out:
i love rainy days because:
- rain is the perfect nap time scenario
- rain is very musical
- rain washes everything clean
- rain leaves everything glittery and shimmering after a storm
- rain is so much fun to dance and play in
i hate rainy days because:
- rain never fails to fall when I’m wearing TOMS (the most inappropriate footwear for rain)
- rain depresses me, and makes me feel incredibly lonely
- rain makes me want to read more, and i always end up reading something way too sappy
- rain, sometimes is very reflective of my emotions (i’m a girl, get over it)
yay for the first list being longer than the last.
yesterday, Jenna and i went to Lifeway to look around. My original intent of going into Lifeway was to purchase the book Crazy Love, by Francis Chan that absolutely everyone has recommended for me to read. But alas, they didn’t have it. So instead i broke the bank and walked out with: Captivating, Boy Meets Girl, and The Divine Romance. All of which i am excited to read, and i pray will help mold me into a more reflective woman of Christ.
Today i went on a date with myself to Starbucks.. to have some coffee and dive into my first book of the bunch..Captivating. Probably wasn’t the best book to start reading on a rainy day, but I am way too excited about this book to wait for clear skies. I wanna share with you guys some excerpts from the first chapter that really stuck out to me:
“I know I am not alone in this nagging sense of failing to measure up, a feeling of not being good enough as a woman. Every woman I’ve ever met feels it- something deeper than just the sense of failing at what she does. An underlying, gut feeling of failing at who she is.
I am not enough, and I am too much at the same time. Not pretty enough, not thin enough, not kind enough, not gracious enough, not disciplined enough. But too emotional, too needy, too sensitive, to strong, too opinionated, too messy. The result is Shame, the universal companion of women. It haunts us, nipping at our heels, feeding on our deepest fear that we will end up abandoned and alone.”
wow. hits the nail on the head, huh?
for the most part, i feel ‘not enough, and too much’ all of the stinkin’ time. But that opinion of myself is solely based on life experience thats has shaped the way i see myself. It has everything to do with dad relationships, any kind of relationships with the male gender and even failed friendships. Every time I have failed in any kind of relationship i look back and i pick out everything i hate about myself…and try to fix it. fix fix fix. I am always flawed, i am always broken, always imperfect and undesirable. I keep trying to become a ‘better’ woman of Christ. What does that even mean? Reading this book, so far has opened my eyes to a lot of life changing stuff.
For instance…Girls..Women. We are emotional beings. We desire to be sought after, pursued, fought for and most of all loved, I’d go so far to even say..we long to be adored. (i love that word) God created us with those desires. It wasn’t on accident, and it wasn’t so that we would just forever be on the last nerve of every man within a five mile radius of us. He created us that way, because it is an accurate reflection of His own heart. Men and Women were both created to reflect God’s own image.. we just reflect different parts.
I so agree with everything John and Staci wrote in this book, yet at the same time it just seems so unreal.
I know God intended men and women to be this way.
He intended men to fight, and women to be pursued.
But I’m not sure if i believe it exists anymore.
Another excerpt that Staci wrote about her now husband, John:
“John wrote me letters, lots of letters. Each one filled with his love for God and his passion for me, his desire for me. He spent hours carving a beautiful heart out of manzanita wood, then attached it to a delicate chain and surprised me with it. (I still cherish the necklace.) I came out to my car after my waitressing shift ended to find his poetry underneath my windshield. Verses written for me, to me! He loved me. He saw me and knew me and pursued me. I loved being romanced!”
probably every dude reading this right now is laughing. The author(s) of this book say there is something wrong with that. I’m not gonna lie, i scanned over it like it was fiction. It’s not anything i can relate to, or something i think exists. But the Lord fashioned our hearts for this. Jesus tells a husband to love his wife just as He loves the church… Our love is supposed to reflect Christs love for us. It’s a crazy tangled web of love.
It’s been a while since i’ve felt loved, or pursued for that matter. And I’m not saying that i want that.
Because right now, i don’t. But what i DO want…is to change this attitude:
I don’t want to only feel loved and pursued when i am loved and pursued in the flesh.
I want to re-discover Christ’s undying love for me.
He is romancing me. He unashamedly loves me. I am breath-taking to him, and he is completely ravished and Captivated by me. And in my opinion…he is totally out of His mind crazy. But that’s how i know it’s real.
Crazy Love…He is crazy for me.
And i want and need so desperately to desire that, acknowledge that, and take hold of that truth.
and most of all…I want to be crazy in love with Jesus.